When we fall in love, our attitude changes. Even if your current world of a man in love seems perfect to you, never forget to think about yourself and love yourself.
10. Be your priority
In a relationship, you first need to think about yourself and only then about your loved one. If you completely dissolve in a partner, at first you will experience the illusion of happiness, which will then be replaced by emptiness and lack of understanding of what you really want. And if you are guided first by the fulfillment of your own desires, you can give your beloved person positive emotions in a state of harmony with yourself. In this situation, the motto “Love yourself, and only then others will love you,” works without fail.
9. It is not necessary to agree to partner plans
Know how to say "No!". If you safely agree with everything that the partner offers, this will ultimately lead to inevitable quarrels. And they will begin due to the fact that you are tired of doing unpleasant things, and your loved one will not even understand what his fault is in front of you. After all, you meekly and willingly agreed to everything that he offered you. The ability to politely say "No, I do not want to do this" is important, because it eliminates the need to step over yourself and do what you do not like. Just offer an alternative, and then you will inevitably come to a common decision.
8. Listen to your favorite music, watch your favorite movies and TV shows, read your favorite books
Often after the start of a relationship, a person wants to know the other as best as possible. We begin to be actively interested in everything that a partner likes. And in the end, his interests become more important for us than our own. But this will inevitably lead to the loss of self. Therefore, do not forget about your hobbies and always find time for them. Every day, on your way to a date, listen to your favorite songs or read an interesting book on the subway, this will only add positive emotions to the anticipation of a meeting. And invite your lover to go together to the premiere of the film that you have been waiting for so long.
7. Pamper yourself
I always want to please my soulmate, so we spend a lot of time thinking about what to buy as a gift to a loved one or what kind of surprise to arrange for him. This is a necessary and interesting activity, and pampering loved ones is very nice. But it is equally important to spend as much time thinking what you would like to treat yourself to. Buy yourself new jeans or delicious sweets. Do not deny yourself even a little pleasure in doing something pleasant for yourself, and not for anyone else.
6. Do not take all the homework
If you live together, you may want to prove to your loved one that you are ready to work at home daily and create comfort. It's great to please a loved one with a delicious dinner or a clean tidy apartment. But this does not mean that you need to shoulder all household duties and completely free your soul mate from them. Cleaning, washing and cooking takes a lot of time and inevitably turn into a routine over time. Therefore, it is important to distribute household chores for two or take them in turns.
5. Dress beautifully and take care of yourself
At the very beginning of the relationship, everyone is trying to present himself in a better light to the other. Girls and young people spend a lot of time ironing their best suits, taking care of themselves and putting their face and body in order. But time passes, and we get tired every day to run a marafet. When the relationship is already a year or two, many allow themselves not to go to the gym, guys can stop shaving their bristles or taking a shower before meeting, and the girls appear in front of their lover not combed and in holey pajamas. It must be remembered that in a relationship, appearance is always important. So that your loved one does not start looking at others or upset in your soul that you look bad, do not forget to take care of yourself and wear beautiful clothes every day.
4. Learn to refuse
The ability to refuse is always important. Most likely, you know how to refuse a request to ordinary acquaintances or colleagues at work. But when we meet a person every day and he becomes close to us, we sometimes meekly carry out any request, even if we do not want to make the proposal. Thus, a person who agrees with everything thinks that the partner will like it even more, and the latter will begin to appreciate him. This is a big mistake. As a result, the inability to refuse will lead to the fact that your loved one will cease to value and respect you at all and will begin to regularly incur unpleasant obligations on you.
3. May your life be diverse
Often, only one person with whom we are going to live our whole life becomes for us the whole world. We focus on him, live on his interests, forgetting about our own needs. But in the end, this can lead to the fact that you will turn out to be an uninteresting and boring interlocutor for your beloved person, because the sphere of your interests will narrow and become scarce. Take an interest in life around you, read exciting books, broaden your horizons, meet people, travel and enjoy every day.
2. Groom and cherish yourself
For the sake of the interests of the partner, we are sometimes ready to run in the rain and snow, if only to take him a hot lunch. Or we can get up every day at 5 in the morning, just to pamper another delicious breakfast and clean shirts. However, if you do not monitor your own health and cherish yourself, at one point your strength will run out and you will feel very miserable. Respect yourself first and foremost, indulge little whims like sleeping in bed on a weekend before noon or a delicious but unplanned cake after work.
1. Forget sacrificial love
In order not to reproach the partner with phrases like "I gave / gave you the best years of my life ...", do not lay yourself on the altar of sacrificial love. You can’t step on your throat for the sake of another person, deny yourself something for his sake. Relations should be built on positive, on the joyful emotions that you share together. Being paired, you need to take care not only about the partner, but also about yourself. And only if both people have a healthy rational egoism, the relationship will be strong and long.